Bar Mitzvah Invitations Last A Lifetime
A small majority of Jewish parents don't put much thought into Bar Mitzvah invitations. Choices are made based on expediency and momentary calculations. This is not prudent. Bar Mitzvah invitations, like college graduation certificates, mark a major milestone in the life of someone.
'This is the moment that such-and-such happened, and it's recorded on paper.' Young Bar Mitzvahs - the celebrated boy is actually called a Bar Mitzvah - will not recognized the future importance of a card's wording and design, but it is actually quite significant. Because Jewish law requires that the parents design the card, it is a final farewell of your parent's efforts into your childhood. The son can look back on it in adulthood and see how much work they put into it.
Bar Mitzvah Invitations should not be chosen lightly, and they should be a joint decision between both parents, even if the parents are divorced. The parents should set aside their differences and each try to think only of the child as they contribute their unique style to the card. Perhaps one parent could do the wording and another could choose the design, borders, images, and card style. The father may be verbose, and the mother may be creative and artistic. Or vice versa. Delineate roles for each.
The majority of Bar Mitzvah Invitations get tossed in the trash - even by the parents that sent them out originally. But there are several things you can do to make the memory more enduring:
1. Frame the invitation and put it on the wall.
2. Put the invitation in a plastic case as a personal keepsake for the child or parents.
3. Put the card in the family, or son's, or another scrapbook.
4. Burn it, and take a video, so you can commemorate passing from childhood to adulthood. This is not so tragic or grotesque as it seems because this purging is common in most societies. Psychologically, former things need to be passed over.
Any of the aforementioned ideas can be used. You needn't select just one because you can keep multiple copies of the card.
Jewish traditions entails that a Jewish male of 83 years old have a second Bar Mitzvah, and if he still had the original invitation that his parents designed 80 years previously, in good condition, it would be well worth the trouble of keeping up with it.
Religion Articles | October 17, 2008
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